Would you share your man???
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This is a good one! Da Kink In My Hair has a very interesting video poll this week. The question at hand is, would you share your man? Trey and Ngozi visited a local West Indian hair shop in Canada and polled the women there and got a lot of different responses and caused quite a stir. The phenomena of being a “matie” (the woman on the side) is one that I personally find quite disturbing, especially when I hear the bogus reasoning and justifications for it. Some do it for kicks, others for money and companionship, and on the wild hope of eventually getting married, just to name a few.
As for me, the only thing I ever want to share is good news, definitely not my man. My soul just won’t allow me to become accustomed to infidelity, not saying I haven’t gotten played but I definitely didn’t stick around to make it a new way of life. I got ghost, especially after realizing it was part of the person’s character! It’s just hard for me to understand how people carry on like this for years and years without losing themselves in the process. In those infamous words of Beyonce, “if I can’t be your everything then I’ll be nothing at all to you!” (paraphrased, but you get the idea) Never-the-less, I ultimately say to each his own and I believe that includes your own man! What do you say? Let me know after the clip!
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I watched parts of this the other day and couldn’t even watch the whole thing as I couldn’t believe my ears!! It’s a shame too because that salon was beautiful and would have loved to have seen more (hair stylist:)).
So if my answer isn’t apparent already the answer is a big fat no. What I believe needs to happen is we need to perhaps make this “shortage” cause us to change out views on things. Something as simple as getting at the neighborhood thug while young in hopes that he grows up to be a man worthy of someone’s time and attention one day.
Rather than watching the world we live in deteriorate and cause things like this to occur.
Not that we can control anyone or that it’s all a matter of who’s in jail who’s doing this who’s doing that. But just saying perhaps if we as people did more to change such outcomes it could make a long term difference. But man sharing oh no, not in God’s will for me (or anyone for that matter, don’t believe the hype) to do so.
Anonymous, I totally agree with you. I honestly believe that whatever you settle for is what you will always get. I think the fact that not everyone wants to be married or in a relationship and not every woman even wants a man (which is an entirely different issue)should be factored in as well. I think the Black community is subject to so many derogatory statistics it’s ridiculous and to base your actions on them isn’t very wise in my opinion. What God has for you, is for you and that includes your own man according to His word and I believe Him.
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